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Understanding Addiction: Why We Sometimes Hurt Ourselves Even When We Know It’s Bad

Addiction is complicated. Sometimes, people keep doing things they know might harm them. Why? This article explains the science behind addiction in a simple way. We’ll look at why our brains make it hard to stop behaviors that harm us, why lifestyle changes can be difficult to stick to, and what scientists are learning about how to help.

What Is Addiction?

Addiction happens when someone continues doing something harmful, like smoking, drinking alcohol, or using drugs, even though they know it’s risky. It’s not just about wanting to do something—it’s also about feeling driven to do it, even when they want to stop.

This push-pull between wanting to stop but feeling a strong urge to continue is at the heart of addiction. It involves chemicals and signals in the brain, called neurohormonal mechanisms, which make people feel compelled to do certain things, even if they know it’s harmful. These mechanisms make it tough to make good choices, even when they really want to.

Why Do We Keep Doing Things We Know Are Bad?

Our brains are powerful and complex. They are built to help us survive and do things that make us feel good. But sometimes, this can work against us. Here are a few ways our brains make it hard to stop harmful behaviors:

  1. The Reward System: When we do something enjoyable—like eating a tasty snack or getting a hug—the brain releases chemicals that make us feel happy. These chemicals tell us, “Do that again!” With addictive behaviors, the brain’s reward system goes into overdrive, making it feel really good and encouraging us to keep doing it.
  2. Resistance to Change: Our brains don’t just act with reason. They have automatic systems that work even when we’re not consciously thinking about them. This means that if our brain “learns” that something is enjoyable, it may push us to keep doing it, even if we’re telling ourselves to stop.
  3. Stress and Emotions: When we feel sad, stressed, or even bored, our brains sometimes look for ways to feel better fast. This is why people might turn to addictive behaviors in the first place—they temporarily feel better, even though it may harm them in the long run.

Why Is It So Hard to Change?

Trying to stop doing something harmful often involves lifestyle changes, which are changes in the way we live day-to-day. But studies show that these changes are really hard to stick to. For example, many people who start diets or exercise plans quit after a few weeks. Why does this happen? Partly because our brains rely a lot on what feels natural or automatic.

When we make a change, we’re going against these automatic drives, and that takes effort. The brain’s “autopilot” doesn’t always agree with our good intentions. This explains why it’s so difficult to keep up with healthy habits even if we know they’re good for us.

Why Addiction Is More Than Just Willpower

People used to think that addiction was just a matter of willpower, or the ability to control what we do. But now, scientists know that it’s more complex than that. Addiction happens because of powerful forces in our brains that are partly beyond our control. These forces can overpower our logical side, making it feel nearly impossible to stop harmful behaviors just by deciding to.

Imagine trying to hold back a river with your hands. That’s what it feels like for many people trying to overcome addiction. The brain’s “addiction pathways” are very strong, and just using willpower doesn’t always work.

What Science Says About Treating Addiction

Scientists are working hard to find ways to treat addiction that take these brain processes into account. Here are a few things they’re discovering:

  1. Medication-Assisted Treatment: Some medications can help by balancing the brain’s chemicals, making it easier to resist urges. These medications don’t cure addiction, but they can reduce the intense feelings that drive people to continue harmful behaviors.
  2. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): CBT is a type of therapy that helps people change the way they think about certain behaviors. By recognizing the thoughts and situations that trigger harmful actions, people can learn to change their responses and, eventually, their habits.
  3. Mindfulness and Meditation: Mindfulness practices can help people become more aware of their urges without automatically acting on them. This can help reduce the power of addictive behaviors by encouraging a pause between the urge and the action.
  4. Support Systems: Many people find that talking to others with similar experiences, like in support groups, helps them resist harmful behaviors. Feeling connected to others who understand what they’re going through makes it easier to stay strong.

How This Research Changes the Way We Think About Addiction

The more we understand about how the brain works, the better we can create treatments that address addiction’s root causes. Instead of just saying “try harder” or “be stronger,” scientists now see that it’s crucial to understand the deeper, automatic drives in the brain that lead to addiction.

This change in thinking also means we need to shift how we view people struggling with addiction. Instead of blaming them or seeing it as a simple failure of willpower, we can appreciate how their brains are acting on strong, automatic impulses that can be very difficult to overcome.

Can We Make It Easier to Change?

While scientists don’t have all the answers yet, there are ways to make healthy lifestyle changes easier. Here are some steps that help make lasting changes:

  1. Small Steps: Trying to make big changes all at once is hard. It can be easier to start with one small goal, like drinking more water or taking a short walk every day. Once that habit feels natural, add another.
  2. Create New Routines: Our brains love routines. By creating a new, positive routine—like going to bed at the same time each night or eating a healthy breakfast—we can teach our brain to work with us instead of against us.
  3. Find Support: Talking to friends, family, or support groups can make a big difference. They can encourage you and help you stay focused on your goals, even when it’s hard.
  4. Practice Patience: Change doesn’t happen overnight. People often feel discouraged when they don’t see results right away. Remember that building new habits and rewiring the brain takes time, so try to be patient with yourself.
  5. Celebrate Progress: Rewarding yourself for small successes can help encourage your brain to keep up with new behaviors. Celebrate each step forward, no matter how small it may seem.

Final Thoughts: Understanding Addiction in a New Way

Addiction is a powerful challenge because it involves parts of our brains that are not always within our control. Instead of being something that we can just “will away,” it’s a condition that is closely tied to how our brains work. Recognizing addiction as a complex process helps us understand that people dealing with it need support, compassion, and treatments that work with the brain’s natural tendencies.

The new way of thinking about addiction recognizes that overcoming it isn’t about sheer willpower alone; it’s about understanding our brains, working with our natural drives, and finding the right support and strategies to make meaningful changes. With ongoing research and compassion, there is hope for better ways to help people lead healthier lives.

Look after yourself and live with intention!

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